Whilst browsing Facebook, I came across a post that I found interesting to myself because I could relate to it. Near enough word for word of my life and the way I deal with things, obviously not all of it though, but a remarkable true likeness. Only i have never found how to put it into words until now. With thanks to The Depressed Moose, this is his post:
|by The Depressed Moose|
So in between the worst week in memory I suddenly was hit by a thunderbolt.
Oprah Winfrey was on the Jonathan Ross show last night here in the UK and said something that hit me right between the eyes.
She told about how she was sexually abused at 14 and ended up pregnant, she lost that baby and her father told her
"You have been given a second chance, DON'T WASTE IT"
She said it was there and then that she knew that she wanted to help others using her experience.
This was the reason that I started blogging, to help other people by sharing my daily battles.
It took a kind message from someone on Facebook (you can add me here to remind me that people DO care about what I have to say and that it DOES help others.
For those regular and long term readers you may have noticed every now and again that I have a degree in wallowing and self loathing. It stems from years of rejection by various people and sometimes the walls we have had built for 20+ years need to be pulled down and rebuilt. Rebuilt with better materials, modernised to allow people in...
The problem I have is that I take every little rejection personal. Someone who I thought was a good friend has just dropped me like a stone which hit me hard, where I go wrong is that I forget that it is the other party that has issues and not me (all the time!)
I like to go that extra mile for people and forget to look after myself properly, although being concerned for other people is a good thing in my eyes. I need to remember to be kinder to myself, and when people do send praise my way to accept it. Dismissing praise is a bad habit and one I need to work on - so keep the praise coming, all in the name of research of course.
The point though is that this blog has had nearly 80,00 views with an average of 100 views a day. This means people look up to me, sometimes this idea blows me away that I have so much interest in little old moosey. I do have a sense of purpose, I WANT to be viewed as someone who people can look at as an example of how depression can ruin your life but still somehow we survive, even if at times the dark can be overwhelming.
I focus on what I want not what I need. What I want is often not obtainable because it is out of my control, what I need is what I allow to come to me. The world has a way of bringing things/people into your life when you least expect it. I am now working on allowing nature to take its course, or God's plan to show rather than forcing everything.
When people are struggling yet take the time out to message me with ideas, advice, the offer of an ear it shows that I do actually have more than I admit at times. While I expect too much from people I know that this is an unrealistic approach to life, there are lots of people who message me via social media to offer warmth, sincerity or a swift boot up the backside!
I focus on those who DON'T contact me..... from this moment on that will change.
If I am so forgettable to them then surely that means they are forgettable to me right?
I need to fill my days again, the worst thing that happened to me and my recovery was having to quit the gym because it helped me so much, enhanced confidence at the weight loss but more importantly I was leaving the flat and doing things everyday.
The question again today is WHEN will I get better and no longer WHY wont I get better.
And who would've thought that Oprah Winfrey would be my inspiration...